The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life – Book Review

Ranking high on best-seller lists for self-help books, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life is grabbing attention worldwide with its irreverent, hilarious, vulgar, and thought-provoking life advice.

The author, Mark Mason, created a resource that on the surface may seem like profane fluff, but The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck contains many arguments which are backed by scientific research and align well with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). What a nice surprise!

While riddled with profanity and poop-jokes (especially in the first half of the book), Manson makes sound and research-based arguments for the importance of practicing acceptance (of your flawed human nature, the inevitability of some pain in life, and of your own mortality), living a life in accordance with your values, and of taking control of your own life in order to live a more authentic life based on what is most important to you. Continue reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life – Book Review”

The Big List of Coping Statements for Stress, Grief, Anxiety, Depression, and More

Coping statements are positive and true statements used to replace the negative and untrue thoughts that take over when you feel anxious, depressed, stressed, angry, or when facing other distressing or overwhelming situations. For example- Replace “I can’t take it anymore” with “I’m doing it. I can handle this.”  Use this huge list to find coping statements for stress, anxiety, depression, grief, phobias, anxiety, disordered eating, anger, and more.

 

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How to Say No and Set Boundaries

How to say no and set boundariesLearning how to say no and set boundaries will help you to protect and nurture yourself.  Saying yes when you really need to say no can cause stress, burnout, bitterness, and resentment.  If you are drained, have other plans, or just don’t want to say yes, you can learn how to say no without being steamrolled or intimidated.

Saying no is appropriate when it keeps you from stretching yourself too thin or protects your own time.  Unless your sole reason for saying no is that you despise helping people, then saying no is NOT selfish.  Learn how to say no and set boundaries for your own personal wellness, because you are worth it.

How to Say No Like You Mean It
 

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Learn How to Get to Sleep Easily

Learn how to get to sleep easily with some simple techniques.  Sleep is crucial to our health, but many people never learned or have forgotten how to get to sleep with minimal detours, and as a result don’t feel rested and aren’t as healthy as they can be.  Different sleep tips will work differently, so experiment and see what works for you.

 

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Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think – Book Review

Mind Over Mood is one of those rare books that can change your life in profound ways.  Written by clinical psychologists with decades of experience, Mind Over Mood relates the wisdom of cognitive behavioral therapy in the form of an easy to understand manual full of simple and powerful steps.  Powerful baby steps are the best!

(Going with the baby theme, Mind Over Mood can be shortened to MOM, and it can be the official CBT Mom because it’s just that awesome.  Just sayin’.)

 

 

Mind Over Mood will help you learn how to use cognitive behavioral therapy to conquer anxiety, depression, eating disorders, anger, low self-esteem, guilt, addictions, and relationship problems. Continue reading “Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think – Book Review”

How to Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes

You can learn how to forgive yourself for past mistakes, even if you don’t feel you deserve forgiveness yet.  It will take patience and repetition, but self-forgiveness is worth it.  It is tied into our self-esteem, mood, outlook, and how you live your life.  You can learn how to forgive yourself for past mistakes and create a new future.

 

“Wait, CAN I forgive myself?  Should I?”  

Well, let’s see if you can or should learn to how to forgive yourself before you actually learn how to forgive yourself.  All you need to do is answer these three questions:

–Can you accept that because you are human, you make mistakes? (Everyone of us has mistakes and/or regrets in our pasts.)

–Can you remember anything you learned from any of your mistakes?  (You know what follows a mis-take, right?  A re-take!  Learn from it and take another shot!)

–Can you accept that it is impossible for you to be perfect?  Because you are not superhuman?  (And if you are an actual superhuman, please contact me immediately at seekingsuperhumanassistant@inmydreams.com.)

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then YES. You should forgive yourself and you CAN forgive yourself!


 

“How?  HOW can I forgive myself?”

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Top 5 Best Free Self-Esteem Therapy Worksheets

Do you have confidence in your own worth and abilities, or do you have low self-esteem?  Low self- esteem can both contribute to depression and anxiety, as well as be caused by depression and anxiety.  They are close companions.  You can use free self-esteem therapy worksheets as part of your self-therapy to increase your self-esteem and self-confidence, boosting your overall mental health.

We’ve collected some of the best free self-esteem therapy worksheets out there, and you can find them all here.   These worksheets are to be used for therapy purposes only, not for commercial reasons.  (So don’t make a bunch of copies and sell them at your next yard sale, mkay?)

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Self Help for Depression – How to Deal with Depression

If you are here, you likely suspect you are depressed or know someone who is.  You may have been diagnosed by a professional in the past or you might have scored higher than you expected on a depression quiz.  And now you’re here reading about self-therapy for depression, and I want to help. Just know that there are no quick fixes. I don’t have magic beans to give you, but we can certainly plant some seeds.

 

While evidence shows that self-therapy for depression can improve mood and functioning in mild and moderate depression, if you are seriously depressed please seek professional help.  (Resources are provided at the end of this article.) If you are in crisis, please see our crisis resources.  Please take care of you.

 

 

 

Unfortunately, depression comes with a built-in catch-22. It takes effort and energy to deal with depression, but depression saps your energy and motivation. How unfair, right?

The solution? Start small.  Take baby steps.  Plant seeds.  I will try to make it easier and to point you in some helpful directions, but only you can take those steps.  You’re getting a good start now by checking out the view ahead. Continue reading “Self Help for Depression – How to Deal with Depression”