You may feel like everyone knows the phone rules when you don’t. Like you never got the handbook or missed out some innate skill or instinct. Maybe you haven’t learned phone skills yet which triggers your anxiety, or maybe your anxiety keeps you from getting enough practice. Or maybe you’ve mastered phone skills, but your anxiety flares up for other reasons. Regardless of your reasons, it doesn’t change the fact that talking on the phone often goes hand in hand with at least some degree of anxiety. The good news is that you can learn to manage or overcome phone anxiety and fear of phone calls.
Even without anxiety, phones are a challenge to our human nature. We are required to be part of a real-time interaction while getting less input about the other person’s reactions. Talking to a disembodied voice with no way to judge body language or facial expressions doesn’t come naturally. Many phone calls are underwhelming. People stutter, misspeak, interrupt, mishear and pretend they didn’t. It’s a wonder that everyone’s goal when on the phone isn’t to get off the phone as soon as possible, right?
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There are times in life when it feels like one misfortune after another keeps coming your way. You might say or think thoughts like, “Life keeps knocking me down” or “Life keeps kicking me in the teeth” or “Bad things keep happening to me.” These thoughts may seem like simple, unfortunate, and unalterable truths, and they are unfortunate, but they are not simple or unalterable. You can learn how to cope with stress during hard times that feel like they just keep piling up and burying you.
It can feel true to think or say things like “Life keeps knocking me down” or “Bad things keep happening to me.” But other–better–things can be true, too.
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Coping statements are positive and true statements used to replace the negative and untrue thoughts that take over when you feel anxious, depressed, stressed, angry, or when facing other distressing or overwhelming situations. For example- Replace “I can’t take it anymore” with “I’m doing it. I can handle this.” Use this huge list to find coping statements for stress, anxiety, depression, grief, phobias, anxiety, disordered eating, anger, and more.
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Mind Over Mood is one of those rare books that can change your life in profound ways. Written by clinical psychologists with decades of experience, Mind Over Mood relates the wisdom of cognitive behavioral therapy in the form of an easy to understand manual full of simple and powerful steps. Powerful baby steps are the best!
(Going with the baby theme, Mind Over Mood can be shortened to MOM, and it can be the official CBT Mom because it’s just that awesome. Just sayin’.)
Mind Over Mood will help you learn how to use cognitive behavioral therapy to conquer anxiety, depression, eating disorders, anger, low self-esteem, guilt, addictions, and relationship problems. Continue reading “Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think – Book Review”